How to Convince Your Ex to Come Back

Breakups are not fun for anyone, and being the one who is broken up with is even worse. Some situations do warrant a breakup, and if you were abusive, manipulative, cheating, or just not making an effort anymore, then the fault does lie on your end, and you did deserve to be broken up with then in that case. However, if you are looking to make amends and are trying to convince your ex to come back to you, then you have to be sure to avoid these errors to get your girlfriend back.

• You absolutely cannot invade her space immediately following a breakup. This means you cannot be at her door or workplace, sending her texts or calling her every other day. She has the right to her space and forcing yourself into her space is not going to help you, so do not follow what you see in the movies, because it shows little regard for the other person’s decision and need for space.
• You ask them how much time they might need before you can try to contact them again. Open communication is important here, and once they have told you, you will have to respect that time of zero contact.

• When both of you do sit down and discuss things, you have to listen, acknowledge your mistakes, and then actually attempt to work on yourself. If you want to get back into an old relationship without changing or improving yourself then there is no point to it.
• If the other person listens to you and still decides that they do not want to try again with you, then you cannot force, berate, or blackmail them. A relationship requires two consenting partners, and if you have to force a partner to be together with you, then you’re wrong.